what the gelt?

Husband woke up with a start this morning, despite the relaxing sound of the ocean and the sunshine creeping through the blinds.  ‘We need gelt, it’s Chanukah’ he declared.  I thought he was admitting guilt for the snoring or confessing something much worse…

Finally I understood that being the first day of the Jewish festival of Chanukah, we need to have some chocolate money on stand-by, otherwise known as gelt, as a gift for the children.  So then it led me to wonder why do Jews give gelt to their children at this time?  What does it mean?  And – forgive the pun – but what is the value?

I first learnt that gelt is a Yiddish word for money and that, as with much of Judaism, there are many answers for each question asked.  The custom seems to date back to 17th Century Polish Jewry who apparently gave money to their small children for them to pass onto their teachers.  (I am going to translate this as a type of Christmas tip.) Clearly the children were clever and soon began to ask for their own allocation of this money.

In fitting with our location, it transpires that 20thcentury American chocolatiers picked up on the coin idea by creating chocolate gelt, now a best-seller at this time of year worldwide.

Many rabbis are quoted online saying that the gelt celebrates the freedom of the Jews and they encourage the concept of channeling material wealth towards a spiritual end.  I’m not going to challenge this but I don’t mind admitting that I am slightly relieved that the money is chocolate.  Thank god for the Yanks.

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to nag or not to nag

We are all present and correct on BA2167 bound for Longboat Key. The kids have plenty to occupy themselves, my basket is holding a surplus of snacks and smoked salmon bagels and the house is left in a reason state.  But none of this is a coincidence.  This is due to the Queen of Nag aka me.

Researching for this blog post, I ask around a little.  Do men nag?  Why do we nag?  And does the nagging reflect badly on those who nag or those who are nagged?  It seems the men in our lives do not tend to nag us but I am sure that this is not gender indicative but simply a reflection of the way our relationships ‘work’.

I, for one, hate to nag but still persist.  Of course my nagging increases when I have more to do.  And then it doubles again when I doubt that my nagging subject is going to ever carry out the task.  To prepare for a holiday, we divide up who needs to do what and then I nag Him until his duties are completed.  Awful, I know.

So, does nagging actually ‘work’?  I think it probably only works in the short term.  If the recycling needs to go out, the dollars purchased or the video camera charged, then a short sharp nag will inevitably complete the job.  Longer term, I think nagging is detrimental to a relationship and sure-as-hell is not sexy.

Nagging the kids can be damaging too.  Basically, they turn a deaf ear and then you find yourself voiceless in a very noisy household.  On top of this, kids need to understand the reason why they need to brush their teeth, do their homework and put away the board games.

Now, I will not ask myself again.  I’m off to a nag-free beach to try out my new nag-free skills.

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girl to girl bit of sparkle

I’m not being rude to either the men in our lives or the sparkle in the picture. You see, some bracelets just have girlieee written all over them. The networking #atthetable lunch @The Hospital Club yesterday halted to a dramatic stop so that we could admire the bit of wrist candy modelled and sold by www.claudiasylvester.com. So, for the girlfriend in your life who has really saved your bacon this year, treat her to Claudia’s SparkleShine Bracelet. Choose between Gold, Rose Gold, Black or Silver. £42 including vat and postage. email claudia@stevensylvester.com to order.

Put it down to a ladies love-in and forget dropping any hints to your man.  He simply will not get it.

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The (not so) Brand New Heavies

The bottle of water in my hand, a husband by my side and frantically catching up on ‘berry email….. as I waited for the band to come on, I contemplated how different my life is 20 years on.

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Review: The Brand New Heavies

For me, Ealing-born band, The Brand New Heavies, are a distant memory from my Manchester student days. Their deep love of classic ’70s grooves mixed with some heavier funk has led them to be one of the most successful and enduring acts of the acid jazz scene over the last 20 years.

Performing last night at Under the Bridge, Chelsea, the home-grown heroes celebrated their milestone 20th anniversary fronted by the dazzling and massively talented singer Honey Larochelle. The intimate venue rocked and grooved as the band of funkateers kicked off with Have a Good Time and Back to Love.  Inevitably, the crowd of 40-somethings wanted the big time hits: Dream On Dreamer and Midnight At The Oasis, and from here, the gig took off.

The founding and ever-present trio of Jan Kincaid, Simon Batholomew and Andrew Levy on drums/keyboards, guitar and bass respectively jammed and grinned in equal measure.  Pouring their soul into Brother Sister and Spend Some Time, the band reminded many of their fans of the album which soared to Number 4 in the UK Charts, turning platinum in the process.

The final song Dream Come True went down a storm and it was then that it struck me. There is something very special about watching this band perform. Their long-term togetherness, strength of friendship and sheer love of live jamming is evident. A rare breed in this day and age.

The Brand New Heavies, Stamford Bridge, Fulham Road, London, SW6; Tue 13 Dec–Wed 14 Dec; 7pm; from £30

www.underthebridge.co.uk; www.seetickets.com; 0871 220 0260

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