A girlfriend marriage

Someone once told me that if you have to work hard at keeping a relationship going, the friendship is false. I don’t agree at all. Kooky Cook and I have not had a second to catch up on our Christmas breaks, current projects and life as we live it.  Today we did and as we updated and downloaded simultaneously, I realised that our girlfriend friendships need the love and attention we, at least, try to give our marriages.

David Cameron has ‘revealed’ (via the trusty source, Now magazine) that he and Sam Cam need a date- night each week to keep their marriage sane. There is no revelation there, we are all too aware of the need to prioritise our partners – but what about those girl-friendships or lad-mates?  They also need our time and affection.

Kooky Cook and I feel better now; we have laughed, whinged and debated over strong coffee. But mental note on my part not to let the girlie side down. It’s who we are and, crucially, there’s no marriage to stop it from falling apart.

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G&T anyone?

Feeling no need to January detox, the Red Head and I learnt how to make our own gin on Portobello Road.  http://www.westlondonliving.co.uk/bars

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Facebook etiquette: excuse me, would you mind awfully if I poked you?

In a week where Mini-Me has learnt how to address the Queen correctly as she drops her a note to express her excitement of the forthcoming Diamond Jubilee, I am wondering about the etiquette of Facebook.

Are we foisting personal information on our friends and acquaintances?  Or have we become consistently nosy about our neighbours and insanely curious about those we hardly even know?  All this amounts to a constant stream of noise as we tune into our parallel existence, the Facebook world.

Either way, here are my etiquette-obsessed observations:

1)      Zuckerberg created Facebook messaging for a reason.  We don’t all need to know everything so therefore the direct and private message facility helps to avoid over-exposure.

2)      If someone asks you a question in response to your status update, do answer them.  I am sure it is rude to just ignore them.

3)      Don’t ask someone you don’t know to be your Facebook friend. It’s just bizarre.  Walking in the park, you wouldn’t just go up to a stranger and ask them to be your friend.  Why do it on Facebook?

4)      Quite simply, why over-share? (she says with a self-indulgent blog)  Spice up your status updates.  Do we all really need to know what you had for breakfast?

5)      The eternally grumpy Facebook friend; we all have one.  Why can’t they just go and rant in a dark room instead?

6)      874 friends.  Is that really necessary or even achievable?

Navigating social situations in this virtual world can be downright tricky, let’s learn as we go….

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2 definitions of a (dinner) party

(dinner) party noun

  1. a social occasion at which guests eat dinner together.  Conversation topics include politics, cleaning lady, children’s accolades and husband’s work.  Canapés or crudités on offer before dinner is served.  Table plan reveal who your host thinks you might like to chew with.  Hostess smiles nervously as her menu is enjoyed/picked up or left on plate. Rude to leave before midnight.
  2. a party where dinner is only the first course.  Noise level wakes up children sleeping upstairs. Shots on offer with salty nibbles.  Hostess entertains with food only as an accessory.  No table plan; dash for nearest chair feeling tipsy. Secrets revealed about children’s faux pas and hideous photos from the past are distributed.   Wild dancing, more shots and lots of falling over.  Memory loss ensures you can’t remember what time you left.

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